Books About Coping, Comfort, and Culture
Complied by Lisa Von Drasek and the Children’s Book Committee

The following books can aid young children and the adults in their lives cope in the wake of the terrorist attacks that took place on Tuesday, September 11, 2001.

Coping
These titles are one that describe and identify feelings, explain death and perhaps help cope with loss.

Feelings
by Aliki.
Ages 4+
This book takes children’s emotions seriously, and its brief stories, sketches, and pictures give them a light and meaningful touch. Happy, sad, mad, glad: they are all explained in simple, clear language.

When Sophie Gets Angry - Really, Really, Angry...
by Molly Bang
Ages 4 and up
This Caldecott Honor book expresses out of control feelings with explosive reds, oranges and yellows.

When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death
by Laurence Brown, illustrated by Marc Brown
Ages 5 and up
In simple language, this book explains the feelings many people have regarding the death of a loved one. The accessible text addresses children’s questions such as, “Why does someone die?” and “What does dead mean?”

Everett Anderson’s Goodbye
by Lucille Clifton, illustrated by Ann Grifalconi.
Ages 5 and up
A young African- American boy copes with his father’s death.

One More Wednesday
by , Malika Doray
Ages 4 and up
Simple line drawings and tender text describe a bunny’s weekly visits with his granny and his questions now that she is gone.

Lost & Found: A Kid’s Book for Living Through Loss
by Marc Gellman and Thomas Hartman
Ages 10 and up
Renowned clergymen describe different kinds of losses -- losing possessions, competitions, health, trust, and the permanent loss because of death -- and discuss how to handle these situations.

Goodbye Mousie
by Robie Harris, illustrated by Jan Ormerod
Ages 4 and up
Angry and upset when his pet Mousie dies, a little boy learns that it is okay to be mad, and as he prepares to bury Mousie, he discovers that memories and sadness are all part of the grieving process. This poignant picture book will help little ones deal with loss.

Sun and Spoon
by Kevin Henkes New York
Ages 10 and up
After the death of his grandmother, ten-year-old Spoon tries to find the perfect artifact to preserve his memories of her.

A Terrible Thing Happened: A Story For Children Who Have Witnessed Violence or Trauma
by Margaret Holmes and Sasha Mudlaff
Ages 5 and up
After Sherman sees something terrible happen, he becomes anxious and then angry; but when a counselor helps him talk about these emotions, he feels better. From a mental health expert, a picture book for helping children who have experienced trauma understand their feelings.

The Color of Absence: 12 Tales About Loss and Hope
edited by James Howe
Ages 12 and up
A collection of stories dealing with different kinds of loss experienced by such authors as Angela Johnson, Norma Fox Mazer, Michael J. Rosen, Avi, Walter Dean Myers, and Jacqueline Woodson.

How It Feels When a Parent Dies
by Jill Krement
Ages 8 and up
Eighteen children from ages seven to seventeen speak openly of their experiences and feelings accompanied photographs.

One April Morning: Children Remember the Oklahoma City Bombing
by Nancy Lamb
Ages 8 and up
Quotes from children are combined with descriptions of the events of the 1995 bombing.

What Have You Lost?
by Naomi Shihab Nye
Ages 12 and up
One hundred and forty contemporary poets contribute to this collection of poems about a diversity of loss, from losing a glove to losing a loved one.

Comfort

The Children’s Book Committee at Bank Street proposed a list of books to comfort us, which we turn to in times of stress. Comfort books are great huddle-together read-alouds, cuddling in the blankets on a bed, snuggled in a big overstuffed chair, leaning together on the floor with a cat or dog across our feet. Here are a few of their favorites.

Goodnight Moon
by Margaret Wise Brown, illustrated by Clement Hurd
Before going to sleep, a little rabbit says goodnight to all his familiar possessions, as his big, green bedroom slowly darkens. The classic bedtime tale.

The Secret Garden
by Frances Hodgson Burnett
Ages 8 and up
Ten-year-old Mary comes to live in a lonely house on the Yorkshire moors and discovers a cousin and an abandoned garden. Take a journey to a magic place where children can make friends despite their differences.

Because of Winn Dixie
by Kate DiCamillo
Ages 9 and up
Ten-year-old India Opal Bauloni is sad and lonely because she is missing her mother whom she never really knew. Enter a big smelly dog with a grin and talent for making friends. Suddenly, things begin to change. A Newbery Honor book.

Tell Me Something Happy Before I Go to Sleep
by Joyce Dunbar, illustrated by Debi Giori
Ages 3 and up
Willa has trouble falling asleep until her brother reminds her of all the happy things that await her in the morning. Sweet and gentle rhythmic story we want to hear over and over.

Seedfolks
By Paul Fleischman, illustrated by Judy Pedersen
Ages 10 and up
One by one, a number of people of varying ages and backgrounds transform a trash-filled, inner-city lot into a productive and beautiful garden. If ever there was a way for a community to come together, it is to garden.

Time for Bed
by Mem Fox, illustrated by Jane Dyer.
Ages 2 and up
Rhymed couplets and oversized lovely watercolors portray a variety of animals tucking in for the night.

Owen
by Kevin Henkes
Ages 3 and up
Owen’s parents try to get him to give up his favorite blanket before he starts school, but when their efforts fail, they come up with a solution that makes everyone happy.

Dogger
by Shirley Hughes
Ages 4 and up
An enduring classic about how a little boy’s stuffed dog is lost and found again.

Mama Do you Love Me?
by Barbara M. Joosse
Ages 3 and up
A child living in the Arctic learns that a mother’s love is unconditional.

Anne of Green Gables
by Montgomery, Lucy Maud
Ages 10 and up
Spend some time with a willful, talkative, red-headed, short-tempered orphan girl living on Prince Edward Island.

A Year Down Yonder
by Richard Peck
Ages 12 and up
During the recession of 1937, fifteen-year-old Mary Alice is sent to live with her feisty, larger-than-life grandmother in rural Illinois and comes to a better understanding of this fearsome woman.

Where the Wild Things Are
by Maurice Sendak
Ages 4 and up
A classic worth retelling of young Max who misbehaves, sails away only find when he returns that supper is still warm.

Pete’s a Pizza
by William Steig
Ages 3 and up
When Pete is in a bad mood, his father turns him into a pizza by first rolling him like dough and then pretending to top him with ingredients until the final personal touch. A family that plays together...

Charlotte’s Web
by E.B. White
Ages 8 and up
A pig, a spider and a rat aren’t the usual friends -- but then again Charlotte is no ordinary spider.

A Chair for My Mother
by Vera B. Williams
Ages 5 and up
A family deals with the loss of their belongings and works together to make a new home.

History and Culture
This is just a small selection of books that help us understand the diversity of cultures.

Samir and Yonatan
by Daniella Carmi, translated by Yael Lotan
Ages 12 and up
Samir, a Palestinian boy, is sent for surgery to an Israeli hospital where he has two otherworldly experiences -- making friends with an Israeli boy, Yonatan, and traveling with him to Mars where Samir finds peace over his younger brother’s death in the war.

The Day of Ahmed’s Secret
by Florence Parry Heide and Judith Heide Gilliland, illustrated by Ted Lewis
Ages 6 and up
In modern day Egypt, a young boy who works delivering fuel oil goes about his daily tasks in Cairo, anticipating the return to his family in the evening.

House of Wisdom
by Florence Parry Heide and Judith Heide Gilliland, illustrated by Mary Grandpre.
Ages 6 and up
Ancient Baghdad is lovingly depicted in this luminous book. It is the story of a library where scholars gathered to read, exchange ideas, and collect knowledge from all over the world.

Celebrating Ramadan
by Diane Hoyt-Goldsmith
Ages 8 and up
This book follows Ibraham’s family through the month of praying and fasting until the feast and celebration of Eid al’Fitr that ends Ramadan. The basic beliefs of Islam and the life of the Prophet Muhammad are explained, and the reader is offered an intimate look at a devout Islamic family.

Magid Fasts for Ramadan
by Mary Mathews, illustrated by E.B. Lewis
Ages 7 and up
In this early chapter book, Magid, an eight-year-old Muslim boy in Cairo, wishes to follow the tenets of his faith despite the opposition of family members who feel that he is not yet old enough to fast.

El Beisbol Nos Salvo/ Baseball Saved Us
by Ken Mochuizuki, illustrated by Dom Lee
Ages 6 and up
A Japanese American boy plays baseball while living in an internment camp during World War II, and his ability to play helps him after the war. A remarkable picture book in a bilingual edition.

Loving
by Ann Morris
Ages 3 and up
Exquisite photographs portraying families from around the world provide examples of the different ways in which love can be expressed, with an emphasis on the relationship between parent and child.

Habibi
by Naomi Shihab Nye, illustrated by Raul Colon
Ages 12 and up
When fourteen-year-old Liyanne Abboud, her younger brother, and her parents move from St. Louis to a new home between Jerusalem and the Palestinian village where her father was born, they face many changes and must deal with the tensions between Jews and Palestinians.

The Space Between Our Footsteps: Poems and Paintings from the Middle East
edited by Naomi Shihab Nye
Ages 10 and up
More than one hundred poets from nineteen different Middle Eastern countries share their innermost feelings about place, family, war, and peace.

This Same Sky: A Collection of Poems from Around the World
edited by Naomi Shihab Nye
Ages 10 and up
A poetry anthology in which 129 poets from sixty-eight different countries celebrate the natural world and its human and animal inhabitants.

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